NBN #006 | facing impostor syndrome with confidence
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1 LIFE LESSON LEARNED
whenever i’d have impostor syndrome creep in, i’d get caught up in a spiral of overthinking & questioning if all that i’ve done actually matches who i say i am.
i’d become paralyzed with expressing myself to my friends, family & on social media because i was scared of being seen as a “fake.”
i’d feel that what i’ve done wasn’t “enough” to support my identity and the life i was living.
for example - ever since i started lots of love club in 2019, i’ve had the thought of “who am i to teach people how to consciously create, connect and heal?” repeat in my head countless times.
fast forward to earlier this week, i learned that impostor syndrome wants to deny truth.
it becomes an addiction to deny the reality that we have already experienced.
i realized i was addicted to calling myself an impostor by denying all of the proof i had of me already consciously creating, connecting and healing.
although other people were recognizing my actions, i was in denial of myself because i wasn’t honoring & reflecting on all that i’ve done.
so to face this with curiousity, i decided to start compiling all that i’ve created & documenting how i spend my time.
seeing how many hours i spend creating, connecting & healing really opened up my eyes to how much i’ve been living in my identity.
it gave me that tangible proof for that boost of confidence to tell myself “i did that!”
and when i’m at the “early” stages of stepping into a new identity - like being a writer - i remind myself of all the countless hours i’ve spent writing instagram captions, facebook posts, neopets forum posts, etc. because those actions all involved writing!
when we document & face the undeniable proof of our actions, the gap between feeling like an impostor & being confident in your authentic self becomes smaller 🤳 — share this on twitter
1 QUOTE FROM A MENTOR
“you don’t become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having a stack of undeniable proof that you are who you say you are.”
instead of a book quote this week, i felt like sharing this tweet from one of my main mentors for this season of my life. i came across this quote when he shared it on the modern wisdom podcast and i felt like it was way too synchronistic to share.
1 QUESTION & ACTIONABLE TAKEAWAY FOR YOU
what is one identity you feel like you’re an impostor with?
write down all of the actions you’ve already taken to support this identity. moving forward, document all of the hours & actions you spend that support this identity.
if you have difficulty thinking of actions that you’ve done to support this identity, that’s okay! here’s your chance to start taking action :)
until next week, beautiful!
with lots of love,
RO ♡
your fave multidisciplinary healing artist & founder of lots of love club
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